The Grand Connection

  When we are born our parents are 24x7 on duty, alert all the time because as babies we have no fix schedules, we poop anytime, cry at anything, don’t know to speak, just throw fits and keep showing attitude (laughs). Still our parents make their best efforts to nurture us by giving their time, energy, money and everything else for that matter.

But sometimes even the Heroes(parents) get tired and then what? Then come the Superheroes, our Grandparents. Yes, when even the parents can’t take it anymore our grandparents save the day. Not only they have more experience of life but have also seen many babies grow up to be adults. So, they very well know how to take care of babies and kids, when the parents need a desperate break.

During our childhood, grandparents shower us with their love and blessings all the time. They play games with us, dance with us, engage us in so many activities and have all sorts of fun with us. They are also very keen about our nutrition; they constantly tell our parents to feed us with all the good and healthy foodstuffs so as to make us strong and healthy right from our formative years. Knowing how much physically vulnerable a small child is, they are very protective about us both inside and outside the house.

    When we reach our teens, we have more grown-up fun with our grandparents and enjoy our Life together. By this age, we start returning the favor, we take care of their health, accompany them for health check-ups, help them with their medicines and sometimes also sneak them some fried, spicy food items and sweets (laughs), which they can’t have often in that age due to health concerns. During our teens, many a times we don’t see eye to eye with our parents on many matters there our grandparents bridge the gap and ease down the situation with their playful intervention. With their love they try to make us understand our parents’ viewpoint, putting much needed sense into us. Many times, out of sheer love they also take our side, just to keep us happy. Sometimes we don’t even agree with our grandparents, yes, such situations also come. But then we can’t always agree on all the things even with our loved ones, right?

    When we become young adults, our grandparents become very old and they need more love, care and support from us, more than ever. At this stage of life, they are again physically and emotionally very vulnerable, they might never show this but it’s a fact. Hence, we must be sensible and mature enough to understand their needs and take care of the same accordingly.

    By now, we start understanding and valuing the knowledge they were trying to impart to us all along and also respect their vast experience of Life. We must learn from our grandparents as much as we can and as fast as we can, before they have to leave us. Lucky are those who are nurtured, loved and cared for by their grandparents in addition to their parents. The bond that we share with our Grandparents, I call it ‘The Grand Connection’.

In this World...

When I feel powerless, I look up to God

When I feel lonely, I yearn for friends' company

When I'm hurt, I seek my inner consoling self

When I need love, I call my Jaan

When I want to travel, Lord sends opportunity

When I'm hungry, refrigerator is not so far

When I'm lost, I trust my instincts

When I'm tired, I take the day off

When I'm happy, SMSes are forwarded to all

When I'm in a dilemma, my heart takes the charge

 When I fall ill, my family absorbs the shock and rejuvenates me above the usual par

In this world, I have truly got it all.

The Within

The Within is given to us the moment we are born, a Life is bestowed upon us. We breathe free, grow up, enjoy our childhood, have our share of experiences, go through nitty-gritties of this world and all that living daylight & silent night has to offer we consume.

But with the passage of time, it’s possible that our family gets disbanded and we have no father-figure to live under the guidance of, whether inside or outside of the extended family even. Friends may have their own share of issues and may be too busy in dealing with them, so much so that even a phone call may seem a distant possibility. The Love of our Life if at all we’ve got one, may seem to be emotionally distant for any of the myriad reasons, not having one creates a vacuum, which we wander in, until we find a suitable someone.

Suddenly we go blank and forget why and towards what, are we working?, What is our goal & the purpose behind it ? There may be no sign of inspiration or motivation at all. The Life we have so far lived may seem to be a castle in the air, and then everything would be nothing but a great illusion, a big mistake. The atmosphere is nothing fit to live in, only mind-state that we’ve got is of desperation, only thing we want to do is punch something, only thing we actually do is breath fire and only feeling left with us is self-disgust. The agony of being in this state with the icing of physical pain is the reinforcement that we are alive, Atleast.

All this can happen in a real actual human life on this earth! Then what? Would you continue to live like this? No! What to do then? How to deal with it? What or Who went wrong? How to correct it? How to live a Life even better than we ever had? All the answers lie Within Us. The Seed of Continuum of Life, the Potential to Change, the Energy to carry out all that is Possible is inside us, The WITHIN.

Shake yourself up, then feel & locate the Within. The Within wakes up to check if it is sound on a physical level, feeds the body, diverts the mind, enjoys a sleep. The next time you get up it searches for a reason to live, the reason is Self-Preservation. Yes! Live for yourself; thank the Universe for this Human Life that you’ve got.

Approach your family, break the ice, ask for guidance, pay heed to it, share the love, and make yourself a sincere part of your family. Remember this, your family always Loves You. No matter, if their suggestions don’t match or go entirely against your wishes, Trust them, they really want you to lead a Happy, Problem-free Life. They are elders, they have a foresight, they can decide better things, so listen to them for your own good.

Realize that life can be beautiful. Enjoy the world, establish a Grand Target, and achieve it in steps, by completing Mini-Goals if you will. The sweat on thy brow invites GoodLuck.  You can win back your Lover, by hard-work, dedication, sincerity towards your duties & job, and last but not the least Love, Care & Respect for your Beloved.

A balanced man has good friends, reconnect with yours, send an sms, be bold enough to call a long lost friend, arrange for a meeting, pour your heart out, cherish the bond. In this ruthless world, friends, family and lover help us to be & remain hopeful, throughout the continuous struggle that we go through. They watch our back when we are vulnerable and mean people get to us, thus the kith and kin play a vital role in our trying times. Also the Joy of Sharing can’t be experienced without them existing in our lives, just imagine what’s the use of a Great Good News when you have no Lover or Folks to share it with? Even if you don’t get a friend, befriend yourself, care for your Oldest and Best Friend – The Within.

May you achieve a perfect Harmony in your Life among Love, Work & Fun. God Bless You All.

GOD is here

        The other day in my living room sitting before the T.V. set, I was watching Shereen Bhan reading out latest business news with intermittent inputs from Udayan Mukherjee interviewing a Business Honcho about contemporary trends in Stock Market, it was then that I quizzed myself, Don't these guys ever get bored of the Financial talk ? Do they never have mental fatigue ?, while trying to figure out a 1000 different ways to create more wealth, are they so happy doing all this; day after day and year after year, maybe because it’s their job or maybe even that they chose this profession only because they love Economics so much.

        Then suddenly, I was astonished at a strong realization, all these years since my birth and even before that, my father has been providing for the family, working hard day in and day out devising new ways to multiply the money and showering tender love on family members all at the same time. He has rightly put in his blood and sweat alike making the household grow from being utterly poor to fairly good, without complaining ever and always sacrificing his personal life.

        My mother following in his footsteps, in her own might chooses subtle but profound ways ignoring herself completely serving us day and night alike all these years, without even blinking and never taking a day off. Her life is a set of pains and tensions more harrowing and deeply secret, than that of my father's, she being a Woman.

        Still, my parents have never let us children to bear the brunt of the hell-fire scorching on them. They have all the while worked hard and loved us profusely. It takes infinite perseverance, strenuous hard-work and a golden heart to do, what my parents have been doing all along.

        I must admit, "God Exists on this Earth", for me it’s my parents, without a slightest doubt.


Dear Parents (my God),
                    Even if I put all my life working to serve you and love you, it is nothing compared to what you have done, to raise me, to teach me the way of life, the lessons to keep up with this world and inculcating in me the good habits and a base of a clean character you have established in me.
                    I hereby bow before you and vow to keep you happy all through your life; and will always remain under your careful eyes and make you proud by leading a righteous life.

Your son,
amit.

If I were your wife...

If I were your wife,
I would wake you up with a smile and some tea
I would keep the newspaper before you ought to see
I would nudge you away to visit the loo
so that I quickly clean-up the mess we do
Meanwhile, I would feed the birdies
which sing for us
Kiss our kids who are
so much in love with us
I would greet the elders "Good Morning", upright
because they are my parents more than thine
I would set the shower just fine for you
and be busy in the kitchen where you don't like me to
Fresh & wet as you come out
I will give you a naughty look to freak you out
I would cook many different meals as if I play
so that you taste a new thing each & everyday
I would see you dress through crisp & shine
& would polish your boots quick & fine
I would then drop the kids off to school
Your parents would eagerly wait for me as they are so cool
I would run through the groceries with your mom
and through a crossword will make your father's way out
I would file the documents you left flying all around
and pick-up crazy phone calls that whirl my brain round-n-round
I would keep your house always clutter-free
even when our children are on a running-spree
Everyone would be served before you come
I would be so anxious until you come
Whether you come home early or late
you will always find me at the table as your mate
I would nourish you well before we need to sleep
and by the window would have so many stars to peep
I would never let you keep a thing in your mind
and would see to it that before me, you completely unwind
I would naughtily peck you 'Good Night'
instantly, you would smooch me thick & tight
In your arms I would stick like a bee
as if you are a honey-comb, my dear hubby
I would exude Zest & Zeal
because thats what your love makes me feel
Only If I were your Wife.

An Indian Housewife

Having pleased her husband
the other night in bed
The set of tired bones
was unable to grab peace
Only rewarded brief naps
with intermittent nightmares
She struggles herself at the dawn
before any chirp in the town
Getting up her tots
early morning for school
By rubbing their heads
and shaking them free
Parcelling them sweetly to school
as if they were her only care
Next in line is husband dearest
waiting eagerly for his morning kiss
Then only will he come out of bed
and run through the daily chores he ought to have
The saltless breakfast she mistakenly made
is complemented by tantrums he in return gave
He never left home without a hug
but this day witnesses a different case
He went out storming
and slammed the door
The chirpy maid
is her only friend
With the help of whom
she cleans every inch
Making it look
like a heavenly place
Beating the laundry
she kills her stress
Doing the dishes
she spills her wishes
Which have no way to go
but only the sink
She cooks delicious meals
which affect none of her senses
For ironing she sits down
which often burns the shirts
That in yesteryears
she had gifted her hubby
In a bid to relax
she tunes in the radio
Running in her children come
calling Ma… Ma…
She reached out promptly
and loved them tightly
Children kissed their mummy
killing each of her worries
Soon came in the husband
seeming a bit perplexed
Intertwined home & office affairs
were to blame for
After munching the dinner
children were soon asleep
The husband sought comfort
in her soft hug
With all the love she had
she addressed his problems
On receiving her love
to his heart’s content
He couldn’t help but
lay peacefully asleep
She counted her joys
and saw them grow
Soon she too
was caressed by sleep.